Lasting Effects of High School

Traditionally mental health professionals focus on our childhood and it's impact on our present. But now social scientists are beginning to look at how our experience in adolescence has a long lasting effect on the adults we become. There's nothing benign about putting hundreds or thousands of teenagers in one building with nothing common except their age.

Jennifer Senior writes a very interesting article in New York Magazine titled, "Why You Truly Never Leave High School." It's a terrific read.

What good Can It (Psychotherapy) Do?

The personal benefits of psychotherapy are usually difficult to put into words. New brain imaging and neuroscience can demonstrate how talking to a therapist can make profound differences in our mood, however, this too is hard to grasp when we just feel overwhelmed, stressed and/or sad. Psychotherapist May Benatar does a good job at explaining the benefits of therapy in her Huffington Post Blog.

New CEO of Yahoo Minimizes the Impact of a New Baby

Many parents feel awful when they have a difficult baby and it's really demoralizing to hear glowing stories from other parents. So when Marissa Meyer told an audience at Fortune's Most Powerful Women how easy it is to return to work a few weeks after becoming a new mother and how easy the baby is, many working women must have had thoughts like this sounds too good to be real and just wait until the baby crawls. Too few women break through the glass ceiling and we need realistic models from women at the very top. In Huffington Post, Lisa Belkin articulates why Marissa Meyer's sentiments are unhelpful in her post, Marissa Meyer: Please Stop saying Your Baby is 'Easy'

Some insight into what motivates girl bullying, usually referred to as "Mean girl." At the core of this phenomena is the way girls are not comfortable with expressing anger directly. Read Samantha Parent Walravens" article in The Huffington Post for more useful information

What's Wrong With Teenage Brains?

Good article about the development of teenage brains and how are teenagers develop earlier and take longer to grow up. They are younger and older at the same time.  Parents are focused on education that takes place in the classroom and neglect giving their teenagers the life skills that can't be learned in a classroom. Read more by Alison Gopnik for the Wall Street Journal. 

85 percent of the college grads move home for some period of time

The first question most parents ask after college student moves back home is, "Should I charge rent", and it's not the important question. Our children come home with a lot of debt and face a very tough job market, so charging rent may be unproductive.

The question is really, "How can I help my adult child mature into a responsible adult". Carolyn Butler of The Washington Post interviewed me for some tips for parents.

If you want to learn about foster the characteristics of adulthood download, Mom, Can I Move Back Home With You available as an e-book.

Most Teens Suffer Depression Alone

Boys under report their depression and often don't get help. Unfortunately this pattern continues into adulthood. Eight percent of all teenagers ages 12-17 report  feeling depressed two or more weeks in the last year and this number breaks down very differently for girls than boys.  

In older teens, 15-17, 15% of girls and 6.4% of boys say they had a major depressive period in the preceding year.

Early intervention is key because depressed teenagers abuse drugs and/or alcohol to self medicate. Author Melissa Healy discusses Teen Screen a standardized mental health screening test for adolescents in The Los Angeles Times.